Therapist Perspectives on love and Kindness

In honor of our February themes, we asked our therapist community at My Wellbeing to reflect, discuss, and offer their perspectives on these values. We love sharing their words with you! 

Unconditional Love and Acceptance

Julia Baum, MSEd, BFA, LMHC

“I've learned through the study and practice of psychotherapy that we tend to love a person because they have lovable traits, however, it's wise to unconditionally accept all people simply because they are human beings, whether they're lovable in our eyes or not. We don't need to love everyone, but it's worth accepting everyone because we'll have a much more enjoyable road through life that way. Acceptance doesn't have to mean that you like or agree with someone; it simply means to acknowledge and recognize their existence as it is and productively move forward.” --


Abbi Klein, LCSW

“Eastern traditions teach us that the experience of loving-kindness, Metta (Pali) or Maitri (Sanskrit), like all other experiences, can be cultivated through regular practice. We can plant, and grow, seeds of compassion to ourselves and others through practice of focused meditations. The simplest way to introduce a Metta Meditation practice is to take a moment each day to focus on the following: May I be happy. May I be healthy. May I be at peace. Metta practice asks we start with ourselves, and then expand those wishes to others: first to someone we love, then someone more neutral (I think of my bodega guy), and then to someone a little more difficult (often an employer or family member, or perhaps, a politician). With sustained practice, these words eventually soften and warm our hearts and allow us to feel connected to all beings. May all beings everywhere be happy, healthy, and at peace.” --

Self-Love and Becoming

Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW
“To love others begins with loving oneself. Risking being oneself by intuitively and realistically defining personal values, preferences, potentials and limitations engenders both growth and trials.  This means questioning convention and widely accepted beliefs. It means not conforming to the tribal prescription for what is deemed correct or popular. To fully achieve self love one must be brave and willing to take on backlash in order to realize the noble purpose of becoming who one is meant to be.” --

On Connections and Caring

Kacie Mitterando, LMSW

“Our brains, along with our bodies, are wired to crave meaningful social connection with those around us. We may find ourselves searching for this often- at work, in friendships and romantically as well. The root of these social connections are often based in kindness and love, however, sometimes it’s easy to let this slip our minds. No worries- we can all start small! One of the ways I like to let others know I care about them is writing down important upcoming events in my planner (birthdays, weddings, doctor’s appointments) as a reminder to follow up with them about how the event went.” --

Ways to Show Someone You Care

Paul Triggs, LMSW

“Telling someone they are doing a good job is a great way to show that you care. For example, telling your significant other about how good the food they cooked is or that you value their input will help them feel validated and important. Additionally, describing to your spouse or significant other what you appreciate about them could go a long way and encourage them to do the same. Another way to show value is by commending people for trying new things, even if they fail. In response, an individual who feels supported through failure is more likely to continue trying new things and reciprocate that level of support.” --

Johanna Goldman