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Therapy with Gary

  1. Please share 2-3 anonymized examples of how the work can play out and/or look in the room so that I can form a visual or narrative of what to expect.

    My work is conversational—we sit together in a private, quiet, beautiful room and have a conversation. But it’s a very rarified conversation, marked by absolute confidentiality, a profound intimacy that allows for catharsis. It allows for insights that one needs for personal growth, for an evolving sense of freedom in life. Often I will hear “wow, I’ve never told anyone that before” and I recognize in that person an immediate sense of ‘lightness’...

  2. Are there any philosophies or values that inform your work that I should know about?

    Firstly, I don’t judge. Anything. I believe in the pursuit of personal, spiritual freedom in any way that works for you. I value authenticity, honesty and integrity. I believe that having a practice of personal inquiry is critical to having a life worth living.

  3. How much do you share about yourself during our time together and why?

    I share about myself with discretion and delicacy, as needed, in the interest of providing and contributing to the creation of a trusting therapeutic alliance. It may be to show that I understand or simply to show the depth to which I care about something that also means something to you. 

  4. How participatory are you during sessions?

    It’s case by case. This work is about you, not me. I tend to listen more than talk. I’ve been doing this long enough to know what is appropriate.

  5. Do you assign homework, activities, or readings for me to do between sessions? Why or why not?

    Sometimes. But it’s always at the discretion of the patient, if we decide together it’s something worth exploring... like meditation.

  6. How will our relationship be different than relationships I have with friends/loved ones?

    As I mentioned above, I think of therapy as having a conversation. Absolute confidentiality is a rare thing these days, and having the opportunity to say anything is, in itself, an amazing opportunity. I think of myself as someone who is able to help someone help themselves. I truly believe in my heart that most of us know what to do, where to go, how to be…but we are a bit lost. A therapist can guide us back to our best selves.

  7. Is there ever a time when you would encourage me to leave or graduate? Or how do I know when it’s time to end or move on, or time to stay and explore more?

    I have great faith in the capacity of people to know what’s best for them; coming to therapy is often about finding the belief in ourselves to do what’s best for ourselves. You’ll know when it’s time to move on.

  8. Where did you work before going into private practice?

    I’ve always been, and still am, a visual artist. As I write this, I have shows up in New York City and in Copenhagen.

  9. Have you received any particular training beyond your post-Bachelor’s training?

    Yes, I have graduate degree from NYU and have done psychoanalytic training at an institute in NYC.

  10. How long should I commit to being in therapy, at least in the beginning?

    I recommend at least 4 weeks

  11. How should I prepare for my first session with you?

    Have breakfast…  :)

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  13. Do I need to be mindful of anything in particular while commuting to your office?


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