Quiz: Am I Dating a Narcissist?

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What is a narcissist?

A narcissist is someone who has a great sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, a belief that they deserve special treatment, and a lack of empathy for others.

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They seek attention and admiration while lacking the ability to understand or care about the feelings of other people. while they seem confident, they're actually unsure of their own self-worth and are very sensitive to criticism.

The difference between narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder is whether or not the person's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors significantly impair their day-to-day functioning. Narcissistic personality disorder is rare, but a greater number of people can display narcissistic traits on a spectrum, and these can be damaging to personal relationships as well.

How do I know if I’m dating a narcissist?

While you won't be able to diagnose your partner with narcissistic personality disorder just by interacting with them, trust your gut when it comes to observing traits that are on the spectrum of narcissism.

This questionnaire will help you to evaluate your relationship and your partner’s behavior. No matter what results you get, this questionnaire is meant to support you, help you build self-awareness, and give you some insight into your relationship with your partner.

Disclaimer: This quiz is not a diagnostic tool. If you believe that you or your partner may need additional support, please speak with a mental health professional.

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"Grey rock" can be a technique for difficult relationships

The logic underlying the grey rock method is that manipulative and narcissistic individuals feed on response, emotion, and drama. Perhaps you were told growing up that schoolyard bullies were trying to provoke your response, and that if you ignored them, they would feel defeated and eventually retreat.

The same line of reasoning applies to the grey rock technique. When a person goes grey rock, they will refrain from showing any emotional response, thereby denying the abusive person a clear path to escalate the situation.

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