Coming Back to Yourself · Day 2

What you've been carrying

Most of us aren't tired from what's on our to-do list. We're tired from everything we're doing that no one ever sees or acknowledges.

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In today's video

The invisible load: what we carry that no one else can see
Why high-functioning people tend to over-function
What boundaries are, and why they matter
Why saying no can feel threatening, and how to work with that feeling

Reflect in your workbook

What am I responsible for that isn't actually mine to carry, at work, at home or in relationships?
Where do I over-function? Where do I step in before being asked?
Who relies on me the most right now? How does that feel?
When I think about setting one boundary, what shows up? If a close friend told me this same story, what would I say to them?

Open your workbook

Today's practice: one tiny boundary experiment

Choose one small thing to decline, delay or renegotiate today. Pick something so small you're confident you'll do it, like letting one non-urgent message wait until tomorrow.

If you want words to use, try one of these:

"I want to be thoughtful about this. Can I get back to you by [time]?"
"I'm at capacity right now. Can we revisit this in [timeframe]?"
"I can do [this piece] but not [that piece]. Does that work?"
"I'm not able to take this on right now, but thank you so much for thinking of me."

Afterward, write about it in your workbook: what you tried, how it felt, and what you learned. If fear shows up, that means you're doing it.

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Take the time you need. This program is educational and not a substitute for therapy. If you're in crisis, call or text 988 or visit mywellbeing.com/crisis-resources. Questions? Email connect@mywellbeing.com.